Now that it's been nearly a month since I nursed my 21-month-old girl at night, I think I can safely say that she is night weaned. Here is my approach to night weaning: Night Weaning for Wimps.
Try having dad put your child to sleep for a week (after nursing) before beginning the night weaning process. Instead of nursing my toddler to sleep, I nursed her when she was still quite alert around the household action in a well-lit room and then handed her off to my husband. After about a week of this, I slept in a different room and stopped nursing her at night. This worked well for several weeks.
Find a good balance between being consistent and being flexible. I did cave and nurse my child several times in the middle of the night when she was sick a week or so into the "cold turkey" process. This just drew out the process and I wish I hadn't done it. On the other hand, my daughter became so hysterical when I tried to leave the room and have my husband put her to bed after a few weeks that I went back to nursing her to sleep. The first night was an experiment. When she slept through the night with my husband without problem, we kept doing it. I'll worry about cutting out this nursing session in another couple of months.
Have mom use ear plugs and white noise. I usually wake up when my toddler cries no matter what. But sometimes with the white noise and ear plugs, and if the heater is also on and she only cried for 0.5 seconds, I was able to sleep through it. Now that she doesn't wake up at night to nurse, I only use the ear plugs and white noise if she's sick or teething.
Learn some relaxation techniques to help you go back to sleep. I really struggle with getting back to sleep after waking up to my child crying. The fact is, while sleeping with my nursing baby, I never wake up to a crying child. I usually nurse without the baby or me even waking up. When I wake up to a child crying, my body is soon full of adrenalin. I can feel my heart racing and it takes forever for me to calm down. Also, I am just used to those lovely nursing hormones putting me back to sleep too. It takes me a long time to adjust to sleeping without nursing.
Have sippy cup available near the bed. In my experience, children rarely accept the sippy cup as a replacement for the breast, but it's worth a shot.
Use the TV and food to distract an inconsolable child. If the baby cries terribly, no one gets any sleep. Plus, I have an extremely low tolerance for crying (especially in the middle of the night when I'm slightly irrational and can't tell how much time has actually passed), and might cave and come in the room and nurse my child if she cries too much. So I tell my husband to do whatever it takes to get my child to stop crying. Put on her favorite show or offer her a snack or drink. Whatever.
Explain to other children why baby is crying. If your child is not accustomed to hearing your baby cry for more than a few moments, night weaning can be pretty disconcerting. My preschooler slept through most of the crying, but each night I reminded him that his little sister might cry. I told him she was mad and frustrated that I wasn't nursing her anymore at night, but that she would be OK because Papa was in the room with her helping her go back to sleep.
If you suspect your child is teething or has a sore throat, give her ibuprofen. This is not the time to be a purist. I am a judicious user of children's meds, but I don't want my child to deal with a sore throat or molar breaking while also having to adjust to no night-time nursing sessions.
What are your tips for night weaning?
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